4 Tips to Flexing Your Receiving Muscle

help-iconHave you noticed that a BIG Shift is a great opportunity to flex your receiving muscle?

If you're the self sufficient, self starter, get it done type this might prove to be a particularly challenging task. Not only do BIG Shifts require support, you also need to start asking for what you want and need.

Sometimes a BIG Shift can displace you for weeks, even months, and you may need ongoing support for a lot longer than you feel comfortable.

Depending on the nature of your BIG Shift you may need to ask for…

  • Housing
  • Food
  • Money
  • Clothes
  • Work
  • Emotional Support
  • And more!

How can you open to asking, and more importantly, to receiving? Here are 4 tips that can help you flex that muscle:

1. Acknowledge that you are worthy of love, care and support. This is at the core of the asking/receiving issue. In the same way that you readily offer a helping hand to those in need, you can just as readily open to receive. You are a beloved child of the universe, no less than the stars and the sun. You deserve care and support. Being willing to ask, and receive, will do more to ‘get this' than anything else.

2. Question the disempowering inner dialogue. Notice the thoughts and beliefs that pop up when you think about asking for help: “I need to handle this myself.” “I don't want to owe anyone anything.” “I'm a big girl, I can handle it!” The thoughts may come rushing in a jumble. Slow down and jot them down on a piece of paper. Notice where they're coming from. Is it from a past experience, parental programming or your heart? The source of the chatter will clue you in to the truth of it.

3. Get over the ‘mine' and ‘yours' paradigm. From the time you're very young you're trained to separate between what belongs to you and what doesn't belong to you. But consider this for a moment… if you go way back in time no one owned anything! Life abundantly provided resources, or you relocated to where the resources were. Ownership, though it's universally accepted, is totally a man made construct.

4. Relax into the feeling of receiving. Tune into the feeling of openness that is essential in order to truly receive. Allow the opening to be available to receive. Relish it. Enjoy it. Bask in it. Notice how awesome it feels to receive!

The universe is an abundant playground. Opening to receive connects you to the abundant cycle of giving and receiving. Chances are you've done PLENTY of giving. What if the universe orchestrated this BIG Shift just so you'd expand your capacity to receive? It's sure to increase your bandwidth for giving.

Whatever you need, and want, during this BIG Shift is yours. Just ASK for it and open the floodgates to receiving!

5 BIG Shifts Themes That Lead to Quantum Leaps


In the past 5 months I've been having lots of conversations about BIG Shifts.

Connecting with like minded colleagues who have navigated their own BIG Shifts seemed like an obvious path to explore. I know – from hosting 16 virtual events – that partnering on a powerful topic is a quick way to hone in on the themes you're likely to encounter. Plus I knew it was the best way to pool the collective wisdom of my brilliant colleagues.

As Theodore Zeldin put it:

“Conversation is a meeting of minds with different memories and habits. When minds meet, they don't just exchange facts: they transform them, reshape them, draw different implications from them, engage in new trains of thought. Conversation doesn't just reshuffle the cards; it creates new cards.”

5 BIG Shifts Themes

I'll be hosting a BIG Shifts series this fall, but in the meantime let me share the 5 BIG Shift themes you're likely to encounter. You might find yourself in one of these BIG Leap opportunities right about now:

1. Home. You might be up for a relocation, an upgrade or a serious reshuffling of your home environment. This includes not only the physical elements but the energetic elements of what creates ‘home' for you. There's a potential to move beyond home as a specific location and explore it as a state of being.

2. Body. If you've been buzzing along and treating your body like an after thought, get ready for a full out partnership. Your body is calling for a higher level of care and connection. This can show up as a health challenge, a desire to take better care of yourself, or even an adventure to rewire the tic toc of time. Reality is flexible and so is your body. Tap into the dynamic power of your physicality.

3. Business/Work. This may show up as re-branding in your business or leaving a job to start your own passion based business. It could also occur as a breakdown in your business, losing your job or clients and moving in a totally new direction. You explore new out of the box ways to connect with clients and customers. It's not the same old business anymore.  Your work must be sourced from a deeper place.

4. Money. Your relationship to money has changed. Money is not the focus, it is the by product or result of your work in the world. You find that you can't just do it for the money anymore, it must be connected to your passion and purpose. As your focus realigns to the bigger message of your work in the world, an abundance of opportunities, and money, flow to you.

5. Relationships. The time for surface connection is long gone, whether it's in business, family or your intimate relationships. A higher order of relating is yearning to be through you, so the typical qualities or values that might have worked before don't anymore. You don't relate to others from need, but from a desire to co-create.

Which area of your world is up for a BIG Leap? Make sure to post below and amp up your dynamic intention! Ready to take a leap in the quality of your day to day moments? Let me know what BIG Shift you're ready to dive into below.

Are You Hiding Out?


Has your BIG Shift sent you into hiding? Have you withdrawn to your secret safe house and ruled out the risk of reward?

BIG Shifts can bring out your survival mechanism. There's nothing surprising about that, yes? You're wired for survival. In times of deep crisis it's natural to shore up your resources and seek to control the repercussions of massive change.

Once crisis conditions are under control you might still be tempted to remain in closed quarters. Though BIG Shifts do have their own rhythm and flow notice when it is time to  dive back into the greater stream. If you're still hesitant you might be the cause of your own slow down.

3 Indicators You Might Be Hiding Out

If you're not experiencing movement chances are your energy has been hijacked, consciously or unconsciously. Here are three indicators, see if any of them click for you:

1. Your Energy is Low. You tire easily and a lot. You know you're sensitive but this is hypersensitive. Your fuse seems a little shorter these days. There's very little impetus for movement. You have a very limited bandwidth for work, family, relationships, exercise, etc. Your energy is pulled in. You're hungry for restorative environments like the ocean, a lake, or an inner retreat. It's difficult to access your creativity and flow. Nurture your being!

2. You've Shifted Into a Denser Frequency. This often occurs when there's great disparity between your frequency and that of another's. You vibe down in order to ‘connect' with others.  You withhold being who you are fully, in order to be seen and heard. You're operating from a mundane vs magical perspective. You're stuck in the law of the land vs the living of the  law. Vibe up!

3. You're Stuck in the Safety Zone. You're deeply entrenched in the comfort of what you know. Venturing beyond your safety zone brings on a litany of limiting beliefs that blocks your ability to venture into the unknown with power and grace. This usually indicates you're stuck in survival mode. Engage the adventure!

Once you hone in on the feel of where you're hiding out allow the specifics of where and how you do it to pop up into your awareness. Jot them down. Explore the potential of the circumstance.

Here's the thing: hiding out is actually keeping you from accessing your genius. It takes SO much energy to sustain these lower frequency states that you don't have the energy available to weave your magic into being.

Take a moment right now to hone in on where you're hiding out and what new way of being is calling to you. Make sure to share it with us below. Sharing your insight powers it up! Thanks for playing.

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