“I believed I was a drain on society, a worthless person and a terrible mother whose son would be better off without me. I felt like I was in quicksand and was being sucked in. It was a miserable, hopeless time in my life. The critical voices in my head were so cruel that I decided to end the hopeless despair I was experiencing. I developed a plan to kill myself. I decided to do it so that no one I knew would find me. And the day before I was going to end it I went for a walk along the river and during that walk the shift began.”
Here are some highlights from our call:
There's a lot going on during a BIG Shift and one of the ways to move through all of it with grace and ease is to lighten up. A BIG Shift actually helps you hone in on what's essential, everything else is up for movement. Frankly, the limited bandwidth for bullshit is a blessing. I know that's strong language but this is a fork in the road moment, lovelies.
You can feel consumed by the changes thrust upon you, or you can use your creative powers to craft a new pathway. There are two pathways, equally vital to your movement, your inner world and your outer environment.
Your inner world will be visited by limiting beliefs, conflicting emotions and critical voices. I say hear them out with understanding, lovingly reassure them that all is well and let them move through you. Imagine you're a parent calming your child's fear of the dark. You know that the peril is imagined and your rock solid confidence eases your child into sleep.
When these inner conflicts arise put one hand on your heart, and one hand on your belly. Breathe deeply, slow down and smile. Feel your connection to All That Is (whatever you may call the divine forces) and rest in the arms of a loving intelligence. Every time an inner fear arises use it as a practice to relax into your body and lighten up.
Your outer environment will also afford opportunities to lighten up. Free yourself from anything that starts with a ‘have to, should, and must.' Any activities, responsibilities or commitments that feel heavy say, “Heave ho!” Any people or places that drain your life force are equally up for relinquishment. This is a time to honor yourself and the feel of lightness in your body will guide you to what's best.
BIG Shifts are a perfect time to clean house. If you're willing it will change your world. Where are you ready to ‘lighten up' in your world? I'd love to hear from you in the comments below.
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